Rate your desire to change Warning: Intense desire and courage is required. Fifteen years ago, I woke up every morning in the same place, dreading the day ahead of me. What would he do today to make me feel small? How could I get through the day without his temper…

5 great reasons to enlist the help of a Life Coach — Coaching helps you move from feeling stuck to finding a new path. A life change, anything from marriage to needing a new job, to divorce or retirement, can cause feelings of being lost or stuck. Even though we think we are ready for it, entering a new stage in life throws you off base. Questions like, “What’s the next step? Where is…

Stop saying this! — I read an excellent article in Psychology Today about the one word that keeps you stuck after a serious life event. The word is WHY. Why is he so mean to me? Why did he leave? Why did my child die? Why are my kids not talking to me? Why…

Find the courage to do one small thing you couldn’t do yesterday. I read an article on Micro Bravery. This concept caught my attention. For most of my life, I was the person who stood in the background. Background to my successful husband, my extended family, even those in my…

She Got Away With It. About eight months ago I was shopping in one of my favorite home goods stores. I was basically waiting for a lady to clear the isle so I could go there and look at the fake plants. I stood across from her isle acting interested…

Like an Unexpected Gut Punch. Remember when you first held your newborn? The love that flooded your heart in that incredibly intense moment is wordless to describe. It washes over you and fills your whole being. That love sustains me as a parent. …

Mine was, I hate my life. — Have you paid any attention to the very first thought you have upon waking? For months after a tumultuous divorce my first thought was, “I hate my life.” Anyone else thinking that today? I knew at the time it wasn’t the best idea to give the thought ground, but let’s…

How to Stop Looking Back — When I kept checking the rearview mirror — looking at events of the past — it perpetuated my pain. I’d start with a review how I didn’t get promoted but really deserved it. Then I’d move on to the pain of my dissolved marriage, the hurt of a friend ghosting…

Try this right now. — Sometimes I get stuck in a rut of writing at my computer, reading, and sitting around. I’ve tried all sorts of stuff to stay engaged and feel good about what I’m doing. Most of them work yet nothing works like this. Take a break of just 3 minutes for this…